Who Can I Tell?


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As a native Chicago South Sider,  I have so few people to share my photo with of me and the 2016 Chicago Cubs World Series Trophy. Some of you will know what being a South Sider means immediately and many of you won’t get it at all. A wonderful thing happened in Chicago.  Isn’t all of Chicago celebrating and sharing in the success? Depends. Depends on where you live and where you’re from.

Growing up on the South Side makes you by birth a White Sox fan and immediately puts you at odds with the North Side. There are a few isolated South Siders willing to eschew all and root for the Cubs. The few I know are very happy about the win and I’ve shared my photo individually with them on my phone.

There is such a big South Side/North Side divide that I joke even when I moved downtown I couldn’t get north of Madison Street, the 0 (zero) street that divides Chicago. I went on to say that I would’ve had to get special dispensation from Mayor Daley, the ultimate Chicago South Sider. Getting it, long-time Chicagoans laugh.

Known as a brave one, I’m not brave enough to post my photo on Facebook where the event will mostly be met with radio silence, a thumbs up from the long suffering South Side Chicago Cubs fans and glee from those out of the state and out of the country that have no idea this divide exists, celebrating the joy of this extraordinary  win.

When the Cleveland Indians captured the lead, when the rain delay started, I thought “there really is a curse”. Resigned, I fell asleep.

Then the magic happened, the most unlikely player Jason Heyward, used the opportunity of the rain to meet with the team,  a time usually used to check self-phones or evaluate individual behavior or just wait. Heyward used that time in his own words ‘to remind the team who they are’.

Listening to  Anthony Rizzo’s, a cancer survivor, vulnerable, emotion-filled rally speech, I note the diversity of the team and had the realization that none of these men are native Chicagoans. They are not part of the divide. Rizzo acknowledges all who contributed – a real team and pays special homage to David Russo, oldest player soon to retire. I admire the diversity and inclusion.

Chicago’s most famous and loveable Cub fun, Bill Murray, gave his extra ticket to a random fan, a female. The diversity, vulnerability and inclusion is admirable all around.

The commitment to the South Side/North Side intolerance and divide resonates all around me as we currently argue gender, political and societal issues. Hard to believe, these divides are even deeper.  I deliberately chose the word argue and not debate. In a debate an effort is made to understand the opposing side, to listen to persuade, to come to a new, more informed conclusion.

With the Cubs win, I do not deny my South Side heritage when I focus on the inspiration and not the divide. I am enriched by the ability to embrace a new perspective and be vulnerable to what could be.

 I hope to take this 108 year-old lesson into dialogues around gender, societal and political issues. Join me.  Something wonderful is on the other side.


What do you think about Millennials?


This sometimes leading question can create a heated debate and lots of negative observations about this generation. Some of the things I’ve heard is “they’re spoiled, they are entitled, they have no work ethic, they need constant positive acknowledgement.” Those comments make me smile. Close your eyes and think about it. What generation couldn’t say that about the one that succeeds them? I guess these complaints mean that those that fall into Generation X and Baby Boomers are now officially old. BIG SMILE. The question is also U.S. Centric. Young people that fall into this age group are very different globally and, of course, stereotypes are never all-encompassing and are almost never fact-based.

When putting a team together especially in a situation where timeframes are tight, demands are high and failure is not an option, assembling the right team is a critical success factor. Some of the team members are at the company we’re working with already, some might be on our staff, some might be offshore and some may need to be recruited for a specific assignment. There will likely be several vendors. This complex, matrixed team will no doubt be very diverse consisting of several cultures, personal expectations, age groups and physical abilities. How do you align them to draw the best performance from each one individually, convince them to work as a team, while they are all so inherently different?

Communication is a high impact, low effort, low cost way to align the team. Unfortunately many of us are guilty of assuming that communication has taken place. We all speak, we all write, we understand what we mean. What’s wrong with everyone else? Why can’t they understand? Could it be because they’re young, they’re old, they’re not from here, or we don’t understand their education?team puzzle

When building a diverse team we’ll ask:

  • What can we count on you for?
  • Will you always be on time and prepared? Will you ask questions? Will you challenge in a way that doesn’t sabotage progress but thoughtfully facilitates progress? Are you respectful to those around you?
  • What will you contribute?
  • How do you handle conflict? What will you do when your opinion is not adhered to?
  • How do you handle ambiguity?
  • What do you do when you don’t know something?
  • How do you handle failure?

The answers to those questions are more important than the demographics people fall into.

“There is nothing either good or bad,

but thinking makes it so”, William Shakespeare

There are a lot of qualities about Millenials in the United States that I really appreciate. I like how they are living in really great neighborhoods with a lot of amenities vs. saddling themselves with mortgages they’ll likely never pay off. I like how young parents are willing to leave their children with family or trusted friends so they can continue to travel and learn and explore. They know what it’s like to be raised by a village. I’m inspired by the way they navigate complex relationships. They’ve either been raised in families of divorce and remarriage or are close to people who have. I am intrigued by the way they manage love relationships. A young couple I met was asked if they were serious, they’re reply was “we haven’t put a label on it”. Wow, this stretches my thinking! I admire the way they communicate openly. I am delighted with the creation of the new Holiday “Friendsgiving”

I must admit, I like the way Millenials are forging change. Don’t we all want flexibility? When was the last time someone appreciated you? When was the last time you heard ‘good job’? Do you think you can squeeze in a bike ride today or lunch at a really cool restaurant? If you can, do it.

And if no one has told you today . . . “Good job. I’m glad you’re here.”